Umubyeyi yemeye ko akora imibonano mpuzabitsina n’umuhungu yabyaye

Inkuru ikomeje gutera impaka zikomeye ku rwego mpuzamahanga ni iy’umugore witwa Monica Mares, wemeye ku mugaragaro ko yagiranye imibonano mpuzabitsina n’umuhungu yabyaye, Caleb Peterson, nyuma y’uko bombi bongereye guhura bari bamaze imyaka irenga 20 batabonana aho batuye mu Bwongereza.

Monica Mares yari afite imyaka 16 gusa ubwo yabyaraga Caleb. Icyo gihe, nyuma y’icyumweru kimwe amubyaye, yafashe icyemezo cyo kumutanga akajya kurerwa n’abandi binyuze mu buryo bwemewe, avuga ko yari akiri muto kandi adafite ubushobozi bwo kumurera. Guhera ubwo, Monica yakomeje ubuzima bwe, na ho Caleb akurira mu muryango wamwakiriye, bombi batamenyana na gato.

Caleb ageze ku myaka 19, yafashe icyemezo cyo gushaka kumenya inkomoko ye. Abinyujije ku rubuga rwa Facebook, yashoboye kubona Monica Mares, maze batangira kuganira binyuze mu butumwa bwanditse. Ibiganiro byabo byakomeje mu byumweru byinshi, bigamije kumenyana no gusobanukirwa amateka yabo.

Mu mpera z’umwaka, mu bihe bya Noheli, bombi bafashe umwanzuro wo guhura imbonankubone bwa mbere. Nyuma y’iryo huriro, Monica Mares yaje gutangaza ko yisanze atangiye kugira amarangamutima adasanzwe ku muhungu yabyaye, amarangamutima we ubwe yasobanuye nk’“atari asanzwe ku mubyeyi”.

Ibyo byaje gukurikirwa n’uko Caleb yimukiye kuba mu nzu ya Monica. Nyuma y’igihe gito, Monica yaje kwemeza ko umubano wabo waje kurenga ku rwego rw’umuryango usanzwe, ugera no ku kuba bararyamanye bagirana imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi byatangajwe mu magambo atagize aho asobanura birambuye ibyabaye, ariko byahise bituma iyi nkuru ivugwa cyane mu itangazamakuru no ku mbuga nkoranyambaga.

Monica Mares yavuze ko hari igihe cyageze akumva atagishoboye guhisha amarangamutima ye, ahitamo kubwira Caleb uko yiyumva. Avuga ko icyemezo cyo kubivuga cyari gikomeye, ariko ko yumvaga agomba kuba inyangamugayo ku byari biri kumubamo.

Iyi nkuru yakiriwe mu buryo butandukanye. Abenshi bayamaganye bikomeye, bayifata nk’iyica amahame y’umuryango n’indangagaciro za muntu. Abanyamategeko n’impuguke mu by’imitekerereze ya muntu bagaragaje ko bene uwo mubano, mu bihugu byinshi, ufatwa nk’icyaha gikomeye gihanwa n’amategeko, cyane cyane bitewe n’isano iri hagati y’abantu bombi.

Impuguke mu by’imitekerereze zisobanura ko gutandukana k’umubyeyi n’umwana akiri muto bishobora guteza ihungabana rirerire, rishobora gutuma igihe bongereye guhura amarangamutima yitiranya. Icyakora, izo mpuguke zishimangira ko ibyo bidashobora kuba impamvu yo kwirengagiza amategeko cyangwa indangagaciro zigenga umuryango.

Nubwo Monica Mares na Caleb Peterson batangaje ko biteguye gukomeza kubana no “kurwanira” umubano wabo, iyi nkuru ikomeje gufatwa nk’iyigisha isomo rikomeye ku kamaro ko ubujyanama mu by’imitekerereze, kurinda abantu bashobora kuba mu mwanya woroshye, no kubahiriza amategeko agenga umuryango.