Uko Umusore yabanye na Mushiki we bakabyarana abana babiri

Umugore wo muri Espagne witwa Ana Parra yahuye bwa mbere n’umusore basangiye umubyeyi umwe, Daniel Parra, afite imyaka 20 y’amavuko. Icyo gihe bombi bari bamaze gukura badafite ubuzima bahuriyeho kuko bari barabayeho mu miryango itandukanye. Icyakora, guhura kwabo kwaje guhinduka inkuru idasanzwe nyuma y’uko umubano wabo uhindutse urukundo, bakaza no kubyarana abana babiri.

Iyi nkuru yabo yakomeje guteza impaka zikomeye muri sosiyete, cyane cyane kubera ko amategeko mu bihugu byinshi, harimo na Espagne, abuza abantu bafitanye isano ya hafi nk’abavandimwe gushyingiranwa cyangwa kubana nk’umugabo n’umugore mu buryo bwemewe n’amategeko.

Bahuye ari abavandimwe, nyuma bakundana

Nk’uko babisobanura, guhura kwabo kwatangiye nk’abavandimwe bashaka kumenyana nyuma y’imyaka myinshi batabonana. Nta gahunda y’urukundo bari bafite, ahubwo byaje buhoro buhoro uko bagendaga baganira, bagasangira ubuzima n’amateka yabo.

Nyuma y’igihe, bemeye ko bakundana nubwo bari bazi neza ko basangiye umubyeyi umwe. Icyo cyemezo cyatumye bahura n’igitutu gikomeye cy’umuryango n’ababazengurutse, ariko bavuga ko bahisemo gukurikira amarangamutima yabo aho gukurikira ibyo sosiyete iteganya.

Babyaranye abana babiri

Umubano wabo waje gukomera kurushaho nyuma yo kubyara abana babiri. Bavuga ko icyemezo cyo kubyara bagifashe babanje kubitekerezaho cyane, harimo no kureba ku ngaruka zishobora kubaho ku buzima bw’abana.

Ku ruhande rwabo, bavuga ko abana babo bakura neza kandi ko bashyize imbere uburere n’umutekano wabo nk’ababyeyi bose. Ariko bemera ko kuba badashobora gushyingiranwa mu buryo bwemewe n’amategeko bituma hari uburenganzira bw’umuryango wabo butuzuye, cyane cyane mu bijyanye n’amategeko agenga umuryango n’umurage.

Ubu barasaba ko amategeko yahinduka

Nyuma yo kubana no kubyara, Ana na Daniel batangiye ubukangurambaga bagamije gusaba ko amategeko yahinduka bakemererwa gushyingiranwa nk’abandi bantu bose. Bavuga ko intego yabo atari uguteza impaka ahubwo ari ugushaka uburenganzira bungana n’ubw’abandi miryango.

Mu byo bashyira imbere harimo:

• Kwemerwa nk’umuryango wemewe n’amategeko.
• Kurinda abana babo ku bijyanye n’uburenganzira n’umutekano w’ejo hazaza.
• Gukuraho ipfunwe n’ivangura bavuga ko bahura na byo kubera amategeko ababuza gushyingiranwa.

Bavuga ko kuba basanzwe babana nk’umuryango bidakwiye kubangamirwa n’uko amategeko atabemera, cyane cyane ko ubuzima bwabo bwamaze gushingwa.

Impaka mu muryango mugari

Abasesenguzi mu by’amategeko n’imyitwarire y’abantu bavuga ko amategeko abuza abavandimwe gushyingiranwa yashyizweho hagamijwe kurinda umuryango n’abana bashobora kuvuka bafite ibyago by’indwara zishingiye ku masano ya hafi y’amaraso.

Ariko ku rundi ruhande, hari abavuga ko ikibazo cyabo gikwiye kuganirwaho mu buryo bwagutse harebwa uburenganzira bwa muntu, cyane cyane igihe abantu bakuru bemeye kubana ku bushake.

Icyo bashaka kugeraho

Ana na Daniel bavuga ko intego yabo ya mbere ari ukugira umuryango wabo wemerwa n’amategeko nk’uw’abandi, aho bashobora kurinda abana babo no kugira uburenganzira busesuye nk’abashakanye.

Nubwo bidakunze kuboneka ko amategeko ahinduka ku bibazo nk’ibi, inkuru yabo ikomeje gukurura ibitekerezo byinshi ku mubano hagati y’amategeko, umuco n’ubwisanzure bw’umuntu mu guhitamo ubuzima bwe.