Inkuru y’Umusore ukundana n’umukecuru yavugishije benshi

Mu gihe benshi batekereza ko urukundo rugomba kugendera ku myaka, Frank, umusore w’imyaka 31 wo muri Kenya, hamwe n’umugore witwa Elona w’imyaka 55 ukomoka muri Czech Republic, bo bahisemo kunyuranya n’ibyo abantu batekereza, berekana ko urukundo nyakuri rutagira imipaka, imyaka cyangwa inkomoko. Uko bombi bahuye, urukundo rwabo rwahise rufata indi ntera kugeza ubwo batangiye gusangira ubuzima bwabo bwa buri munsi, bagaragaza ko ibyiyumvo byabo bikomeye kurusha amagambo y’abantu.

Elona avuga ko mu buzima bwe bwose atigeze akunda umuntu mu buryo nk’ubu. Uyu mugore w’imyaka 55 yemeza ko Frank yamukanguye amarangamutima yari yaribagiranye, avuga ko n’ubwo afite imyaka myinshi, yumva afite umutima w’imyaka 20. Ati: “Sinigeze nkunda umuntu nk’uku mu buzima bwanjye. Numva uru rukundo rushobora kunyica kubera uburyo rufashe umutima wanjye. Umukobwa wanjye yambajije niba ntasaze, ambwira ko uyu musore akiri muto, ariko namusubije ko urukundo ari ibintu bitangaje, rimwe na rimwe ruratwica. Ndumva nkiri muto mu mutima nubwo mfite imyaka 55.” Aya magambo ye agaragaza uburyo Elona yitaye cyane ku byo yumva aho kwita ku bitekerezo bya rubanda.

Ku rundi ruhande, Frank avuga ko Elona atari umukunzi we gusa, ahubwo ari umuntu afite uruhare rukomeye mu buzima bwe. Avuga ko hari abamuseka cyangwa bakamuvuga nabi, ariko we atitaye ku byo bavuga kuko azi icyo ashaka. Mu magambo ye yagize ati: “Ndamukunda bidasanzwe. Ni umukunzi wanjye, ni inshuti yanjye ya hafi, ni umujyanama wanjye, ndetse hari abavuga ko asa nk’umubyeyi wanjye. Ariko kuri njye, ni urukundo rwanjye rw’ukuri, ni umutima wanjye, kandi ndamukunda cyane.” Frank asobanura ko icyo ashingiraho atari imyaka, ahubwo ari umutima, ubwizerane n’uburyo bumva ibintu kimwe mu rukundo rwabo.

Nubwo hari abababona nk’abantu barengeje urugero cyangwa barimo kwishuka, bombi bavuga ko batazihanganira kubaho bitewe n’ibyo abandi batekereza. Elona avuga ko abantu benshi babavuga, ariko atitaye ku magambo yabo kuko icyo akeneye ari umuntu umwitaho kandi umwubaha. Ati: “Abantu baravuga, ariko sinabaho ntegereje ibyo bavuga. Uyu musore aranyubaha, arankunda kandi anyitaho, ibyo ni byo by’ingenzi.” Uyu mugore ukomoka muri Czech Republic yongeraho ko yigeze kugerageza gukundana n’abandi bagabo bo mu gihugu cye, ariko nta n’umwe wigeze amutega amatwi nk’uko Frank abikora.

Urukundo rwabo rumaze gukwirakwira ku mbuga nkoranyambaga, aho amafoto yabo n’amashusho bigaragaza uburyo babana mu byishimo byuje urukundo byatunguye benshi. Bamwe barabashima bavuga ko ari “urugero rw’urukundo rutagira imipaka”, abandi bakavuga ko ari “urukundo rudasanzwe rutazamara kabiri.” Ariko ku bwabo, ibyo byose nta gaciro bifite kuko, nk’uko Elona yabivuze, urukundo ni ibintu umuntu yumva, atari ibyo abatekereza.

Uru rukundo rwa Frank na Elona rutanga isomo rikomeye ku bantu benshi, cyane cyane abacyumva ko imyaka cyangwa umuryango bikwiye kuba ishingiro ry’urukundo. Bombi bavuga ko urukundo nyakuri rudapimwa ku myaka cyangwa ku gihugu umuntu akomokamo, ahubwo rugapimwa ku buryo abashakanye bumva kandi bubahana. Mu magambo ya Elona ati: “Urukundo ni ibintu by’ubuzima, si gahunda cyangwa amategeko. Iyo umutima wawe utangiye gukunda, ntushobora kuwubuza.”

Uko byagenda kose, urukundo rwa Frank n’umukunzi we Elona ruratanga ubutumwa bw’uko amarangamutima y’ukuri atitaye ku myaka cyangwa ku ndangagaciro zishyirwaho n’abantu. Abakunzi babo bavuga ko bari kubaha isomo ry’uko urukundo nyakuri rudakenera ibisobanuro, ahubwo rugasaba kumva no kwemera undi uko ari.